Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Kick Start: One Question... (FREE Desktop Wallpaper)


Time has a funny way of kicking it into high gear during these summer months - as each day goes by, I'm reminded again and again how quickly it passes, and how one day, sooner than I realize, this summer will become another memory that I'll look back on and smile. That as much as I want to look into the future, it's all about marinating in this beautiful space, coming back to here, now, this moment.

While you're scanning through these words, I want you to bring awareness to your breath. Was your breathing shallow? Were you holding your breath? Consciously come back to full, deep breaths, as you inhale and exhale.

Feel a sense of calm fill your body.

Let go of the chatter in your mind.

Release your expectations - for this moment, for this day.

Breathe.

Ask yourself this one simple question:

What do you need right now?

Take action.


As always, if this resonated with you, I'd be so appreciative if you shared it with your friends and spread the love x

Friday, July 25, 2014

How To Navigate Change With Ease


Do you feel like you're on the cusp of change? Like, there's a shift in energy swirling in the air and there you are, smack in the middle? Yeah, I'm feelin' it too.

I can quite put my finger on it, but it's as if I'm standing on the edge of a cliff side, waiting for the sign to jump off. It's this awkward space of the unknown, wondering what's to come and practising presence, being in this moment, fully.

If you're anything like me, that type of feeling - the wondering, the waiting, the unknown - gives you ants in your pants, sending you on a hunt for answers as impatience bubbles up to the surface, your mind unsettled and racing. Focusing on the task at hand? Distraction-city. Drifting to sleep at night? Damn near impossible.

Uncertainty and the unknown are a given when it comes to these periods of change and transformation, but there's one thing I do know: we have a choice in how we show up in the world. The in-between doesn't have to be full of stress and struggle, we can learn to approach change from a space of ease and grace.

GET GROUNDED

When our focus is entirely outside of us, relying on the external world, and replaying all the what-ifs in our minds, we get knocked off our feet in a hurry. When we become grounded, connected and present to our internal world, we take our power back, and can use that beautiful energy for unwavering support.

Inhale.
Exhale.

Take your attention off of what's happening around you, and create a solid foundation that nourishes and supports you. Set aside time for practices that allow you to slow down and awaken awareness and presence. When we create a calm internal world, we become less reactive and enter into a space of flow, creating shifts in the world around you.

TRUST, WHOLE-HEARTEDLY

Without a doubt, the best thing we can do is go with flow. As they say, resistance is futile. 

Throw your expectations out the window, let go of the desire to control, and quit the struggle, it will only send your stress-levels through the roof. Instead, enter into a space of acceptance and practise trust, knowing that it's out of your hands and will unfold all in divine timing.

We don't need to know why or how - we need to trust that it's a done deal. (Tweet this!)

BE OPEN TO GUIDANCE


Releasing the need to figure it all out opens a forum to dig a little deeper and discover the hidden lessons behind what's happening - how are you showing up? How can you learn? How can you grow?

Tune in and allow guidance to come to you. Quick tip? Grab your journal, setting the intention for guidance, and ask for supportive wisdom as you sit with a specific challenge, question, or situation and see what comes up.

Even if you don't feel like you're being guided, trust that you will be. You might find it through a conversation, a hunch that you need to take a certain class or pick up a book, or you might stumble across a blog that gives you exactly what you need.

BONUS: With the new moon tomorrow, it's an ideal time to light a candle, break out your journal, and scribble down your intentions to set your heartfelt desires into motion by launching them into manifestation-mode! 


What changes are you moving through at the moment and what practices will you be putting into place that will nourish and support you? Shoot me a line in the comments, I'd love to hear all about it! x 

Friday, July 18, 2014

5 Quick Tips for Dealing with Negative People

We all know those kinds of people, wrapped up in drama and negativity, complaining endlessly, consumed by gossip. The Negative Nancys of the world who devote their time to feeding their cynicism and doubting the intentions of everyone around them.

If you've ever been in the presence of this kind of negativity, then you know it's not a pleasant experience. It can take you from the top of the world to crashing down in the throes of your own negativity, draining you of all energy, leaving you with a bad taste in your mouth.

Not too long ago, I experienced this type of feeling first-hand, after meeting up with a friend for dinner where the conversation quickly switched from catching up to an endless string of complaints, and I became completely absorbed by her negativity. I left the restaurant feeling drained and exhausted, and slightly confused on how I could allow her to bring me down and affect me like that.

So - what type of action can you take?

DROP THE JUDGMENTS

When I first started diving into my own personal-growth journey, it felt like my eyes had been opened to an entirely new world. The thoughts that were running through my mind, my entire way of being was transforming, and it felt incredibly liberating. You know the feeling when you discover something so freaking awesome and you just want to shout it from the rooftops?

Then you come face-to-face with another person, who is wrapped up in their own story or crippled with negativity and you kind of... want to shake them and shout, "Life doesn't have to be so hard! You're doing it wrong!"

Simply put? We all have our own struggles, stories, and heartbreak, and we will never (ever, ever) know exactly what somebody else is going through. We are all trudging down our own path, the lessons unfolding in front of us uniquely as we need them.

You may think you're more spiritually evolved or that they are a disastrous mess, but that is only your projection of them, and it's not the truth.

You are not better than or superior to anyone.

Judge less, love more. (Tweet this!)

MEET THEM WHERE THEY ARE

It might be tempting to pull-out all your problem-solving tricks when somebody comes to you with their issues and complaints. We'll brainstorm like crazy, just wanting to make somebody feel better. We'll pump out our best pick-me-up's, dish out a hearty dish of positivity, and pour our energy into brightening their day.

I'm going to suggest something a little different: Instead of resisting their negativity, allow it to flow freely.

We can spend all of our time trying to 'block' their negative energy from entering our psyche, but what happens when we just let it be? When we create a loving container for a good ol' rant session?

When we meet them where they are and put ourselves in their shoes, we choose to love a little deeper:

"I can't imagine having to deal with that, that must be really hard for you."

"I can see how difficult your life must be right now."

When we enter that space with them, reinforcing and becoming a mirror of their negativity, they can release that energy and move past their negativity.

Release > Suppression.

OWN YOUR ENERGY

Have you ever heard of the term "energy vampires"? It's, essentially, negative people who "suck" the energy from you, draining and depleting you.

As Kate of Your Courageous Life puts it, "They don't exist. That’s just a way to put blame on something external–that thing, out there, over there…that’s the cause. Not me. Not my choices."

(Read Kate's spot-on article on how energy vampires are bullshit here.)

Nobody can make you feel a certain way without your permission first.

Examine the ways where you're giving your power away.

Own your energy.

SHINE THE SPOTLIGHT ON YOU

Every moment that's presented before us is an opportunity for growth. To shift your perspective. See things in a different light. Stretch our hearts open a little wider.

Instead of becoming reactive, ask, "What can I learn from this person?"

"The qualities I see in them, where do I see them in myself?"

Expand your capacity for love and compassion. 

FLEX YOUR 'FREE-WILL' MUSCLE

We all have a choice.

We choose who we spend our time with.
We choose the lens that we view life through.
We can choose to judge, complain, and blame.
We can choose to step inside someone else's shoes.
We can choose compassion, empathy, and love.
We can choose to hang on or we can choose to let go.
We can choose to become present, learn, and grow.

When we know it's all a choice, we enter a space where we're free to make different choices. (Tweet this!)

SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS: Have you ever dealt with someone like this? How do you handle negative people and situations? Hop on over to the comments - I can't wait to hear how this resonated with you and listen to your point of view.

Friday, July 11, 2014

My Writing Process


Blogging. It's a funny thing, don't you think? A funny, beautiful, ever-evolving thing.

I realized that I've never shared my experience with blogging or how it all came to life, and to be honest, it's been a huge part of my own journey of self-discovery. So when Erika asked me to participate in The Writing Process blog tour, I was pretty stoked about the idea of peeling back the curtains and sharing a little of what goes on behind the scenes.

Three years ago, I was sitting in a cubicle working a job that made me feel depleted, unfulfilled, and flat-out bored. Countless minutes and hours were spent staring at the clock waiting for time to pass, and it seemed like every waking moment the same thought would whirl around in my mind, "There has to be something more than this."

My creative spirit was lying dormant and I was looking for a way to express myself, to just do anything that made me feel like me.

I didn't have a plan of action, I just knew I had this love of writing that I'd been neglecting, and so, a blog was born.

Since that time, what you see now doesn't at all resemble what this space once was. In the beginning, I wrote for the sake of writing, wrote about topics I didn't care about, posted for the sake of 'getting something out there', I've been sucked into the world of blogging do's and don'ts, subjected myself to major blog-guilt, and I rarely (if ever) knew what I was doing. I've changed the name of this blog three times, redesigned the look on more than a few occasions, deleted countless posts, and decided to create on my own terms.

In the three years that I've been coming back to this space, I've quite literally found myself in the process. I shifted my focus from sticking to rules, trying to get as much traffic as possible, and kicking myself because I didn't have thousands of followers to making my own rules, creating quality content that feels damn good to write, and being extremely grateful for every single person that I have had the honour of connecting with through this space.

It's easy to get sucked into the world of comparison, focusing on the numbers game, and wishing, hoping, striving, and pushing for results. It's easy to fall in line, and despite your best intentions, wind up going in a direction that doesn't entirely suit who you are, and before you know it, your blog doesn't feel like your blog at all, and you take a step back and realize you'd rather burn everything you've ever written.

What I've come to realize is that there are no mistakes, it's all part of the evolution of our spirits. (Tweet this!)

If you want to take the flame to your archives, redesign your entire look and feel, you can, because the only rules are the ones you choose to go by.

These days, those rules are a lot more light-hearted for me.

It's about sitting down to a blank screen or page, and asking, "What wants to be written?"

It's following the direction of my energy, and allowing myself to be moved by the ebbs and flows of life. Never forcing, never pushing. Inviting in more space and ease. Always trusting that the words will come when they're ready.

It's shifting the perspective of what connection means to me and instead of thinking about Google Analytics, my reach, and number of followers, thinking, "How can I connect deeper to my creativity?" Leading with my intuition, always.

It's redefining what success means to me with these questions: How can I bring joy? How can I provide value? How can I be more generous?

Leading with my heart, always.

What are you working on right now? 

With a grateful heart, I'm completely overjoyed to say that over the past couple of months, I've been dipping my toes into the world of coaching, and have had the amazing opportunity to coach some incredible woman, who continue to inspire me daily. Connecting on a deep, soul level and diving into this work is something I'm beyond passionate about, and I can't wait to witness how this journey will continue to unfold.

I'm also incredibly excited to announce that I'm working on an e-book! In the coming days, I'll be hiding away in my creative cave and letting this idea of mine come to life. I can't wait for the day when I can share it with you. Keep your eyes on this space!

How does your work differ from others of its genre?

It's written by yours truly!

I believe that there is no such thing as competition, that there's room for all of us. We all have a unique voice and every single one of us has a story to tell... we just have to be courageous enough to do it. It's not always easy, but there's one thing I know for sure: If you show up authentically and embrace who you are (shaky boots and all), you will move mountains.

When I look outside of myself and start to compare, I diminish my own worth. When I live by the mantra "Just do you" - I allow myself to expand, learn, and grow. I'm filled with curiosity and wonder. Life flows.

It's much more interesting that way.

Why do you write what you do?

What a question!

I write to discover. I write simply to see the words spill out of my heart and onto the page. I write to make sense of the thoughts that are bouncing around in my mind. I write to make sense of it all. I write to connect with myself on a deeper level.

What I write about sends shivers down my spine. It's opened up my heart in ways I never thought were possible, and continues to do so.

When I sit down and ask, "What wants to be written?" I listen - because it pushes me, challenges me, gets me outside of the box, and ignites this sense of curiosity that makes me never want to stop exploring and discovering. I believe that we are so much more than what's on the surface and when we begin to dig deep beneath those superficial levels, we are met with the truth of who we are.

And that's a beautiful thing.

I write what I do because it moves me - because I'm called to.

How does your writing process work?

I've spoken briefly about the kind of energy I bring into my writing - and when I start to feel like I'm forcing it, pushing to get it done, or feeling guilty, I take that as a clear sign that I need to step away. Get outside, flip upside down into a handstand, crank up the music and dance it out.

When it comes to actually "getting shit done", normally that means setting aside definite "do not disturb" time, awesome music playing in the background (anything from meditative tracks to chill indie tunes to make you wanna get up and dance kinda music), no distractions from social media, and patience. It means getting past the blank screen staring back at me and just writing that first sentence, even if it's total rubbish.

One of my core desired feelings is freedom, so more often than not, I resist structure and perfectly laid out plans. I'm more of a fly-by-the-seat-of-her-pants type of girl.

It might mean candlelight flickering in the corner of my eye, grabbing a last-minute crystal just because (rose quartz, flourite, and citrine are go-to's), listening to the bird's chirping in the background, getting my hands on the closest computer/ notebook and just going for it, or a couple of hops on my trampoline in-between paragraphs. Chilling on the couch in the living room, laying in bed, sitting at my desk, or outside on the patio. Whatever feels right.


Thank you so much for being here - I really hope you enjoyed digging into this one as much as I loved writing it! And another big high five to Erika for passing over the baton :) 

YOUR TURN: Why do you do what you do? All the juicy details - spill it! 

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