Wednesday, August 08, 2012

Finding Balance + Never-Ending To-Do Lists

Balance is a tricky thing. And finding that balance is different for everyone; what works for one person may be detrimental to another.  A big part of that feeling of being overwhelmed is because of how busy we all are and how much we're trying to take on.

Especially as women, I feel we put that extra pressure on ourselves to accomplish it all, don't you think? We're all striving to be the best of everything. The best girlfriend, wife, mother, friend, blogger. Have the nicest home, cook up the most delicious recipes, and actually get around to creating all those things we've pinned on Pinterest.

Most of us (myself included) are trying to create that balance between having a full time job, maintaining relationships with loved ones, sustain some sort of social life, while fulfilling our passions and hobbies. It's tough. And sometimes, it's easier to look at that never-ending to-do list and just say "Screw it. I'm grabbing a bag of chips and sitting on the couch instead."

And it's true. Our to-do lists really are never-ending. Is it just me or doesn't it seem like just when you think you have everything under control, it spirals out into chaos? If it's not one thing, it's another.

Maybe that's why I've constantly written out my goals and "things to do" and never gotten around to them. Actually, yes. I know that's why. Those lists have been thrown at the bottom of the heap of paper on my desk, where they've suffered the ultimate death of not being checked off and never being thought of again.

Now, here I am, searching for that balance that works for me. And I know a lot of us are in that same boat, waiting and searching for those same answers.

So what is the answer? To put it simply - I don't know. But you better believe if when I do discover it, I'm gonna do my best to bottle it up and share it with the world. Until then, I'm making this my mantra.

What do you do to keep a balance in your every days? Do you feel the pressure to keep up with it all?


  1. I've re-prioritized recently, and the very first thing I cut back on was blog stuff! It pains me to say that, but my sanity and my life need it.

    Obviously, I'm still reading This & That. :-)

  2. @Lindsay I think a little re-prioritizing is so necessary to help keep all of us sane! It's way too easy to get carried away in the hustle and bustle of every day life.

    Hopefully you've found something that will work for you...and I'll keep reading your blog as long as you keep writing for it!

    P.S. Thank you :)

  3. Oh, do I ever agree with you on the blog-stress thing. Sometimes I freak out that "everyone else is doing ____" and feel pressured to post... this kind of reaction only leads to a lack of authenticity on the blog. If the blog isn't "me", what's the point?

  4. @Helena Exactly! Blog for you and people will come. There's no use in stressing about it... it will only result in lackluster content :/

  5. I just found your blog through Story of My Life and this post really relates to me. I've always held myself to too high of standards and my own expectations, which is a good and a bad thing. I've never needed my parents to "push" me; I've done that all on my own since I can remember. But the downfall I've experienced is when I get sooo wrapped up in my personal goals, I neglect the things that matter and take it out on the people who matter the most (literally JUST went though this a couple months ago). I've learned to let the little things go, and that includes posting every day. If I can, awesome! If I can't, oh well. It took me a few good pouts and cries to figure that out though. Anyways, just wanted to explain that I feel the same way girl! Newest follower :) xx, Allie

  6. This was just what I needed! I started my blog for fun for ME, because I love writing, and lately I have put so much pressure on myself to gain followers and do things I don't necessarily want to do. Thanks for the encouragement.

  7. Great great post lady. So glad you shared this on my blog. It's a refreshing feeling to know that we aren't all alone in this constant struggle to finding the perfect balance. Nor do I believe we will ever feel as though we have found it. If we can squeeze in more play than work, I think we are doing pretty good ;) at least that's my goal for the weekend :)

  8. What a great post! As a fairly new blogger I totally feel the pressure to be doing the "right thing" all the time and trying to figure out what I should be doing to keep everyone happy. I need to step back and remember why I started doing it and stick to what I love and really what is "me".